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Balancing Health, Relationships, and a Career You Love

Oftentimes, I work with clients who are all jazzed about a new work-from-home gig. However, a few months later, they realize that they’re struggling in other areas of their lives. They may be having trouble maintaining friendships, feeling unfulfilled in their marriages, or even letting their health goals lapse. For many of us, it can end up feeling like whenever we take two steps forward with our careers, we then take one step back in another area of our lives. This is natural! Whenever our career roles change, even for the better, it’s common for some chaos to follow. That’s when it’s time to take a deep breath and realize that you are far from alone. When taking on a new career goal, task, or entirely new job, take some time to share with your spouse, friends, and other loved ones that you could use their support as you advance your profession while learning how […]

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February Webinar: Create your Relationship Vision Board

  This month’s free Community Coaching webinar is all about how to to create a vision for your marriage and other relationships. I really hope that you will join me on this free webinar. I am going to walk you through why having a relationship vision board is different than having a regular vision board and why it is so powerful to create one. This vision board isn’t just about the law of attraction; it’s about setting your mind to focus on the aspects of your relationship that you want to see grow and improve and stop focusing on what you don’t like. It’s about having something to work towards and strive for just like you do with other goals in your life. Its about gaining clarity regarding your priorities and defining what an ideal marriage, home life, and friendships look like. We’ll talk about: how to create the level of intimacy you desire, the type […]

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OMG! I had coffee with Ellie Kay!

OMG, I Had Coffee With Ellie Kay!

Financial guru Ellie Kay has been a long-time mentor of mine—so, I was SUPER excited when she asked me to be a guest on her new podcast, The Money Millhouse (thus the name of this post!). Ellie and her podcast partner, Bethany, invited me to their virtual kitchen to chat about money. I had so much fun connecting with them! Not only do I love that Ellie Kay is a hardworking entrepreneur who turned her passion into a business—but I’m amazed that she did all of this while raising five children, being a fabulous grandmother, publishing dozens of books, becoming the top expert on financial literacy, excelling as a motivational speaker, and working with the most amazing millennial ever, Bethany Bayless! Plus, she manages it all with grace, making her such a mentor to me as well as a genuine leader in the military spouse community. I hope that you will take a minute to […]

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Give Your Goals Some Tender Loving Care

New Year’s often helps us clarify our life visions. We’re naturally energized to clean our closets, declutter our kitchens, and create routines that serve us. We may use this energy to put a word or phrase of self-support on a sticky note posted on our mirrors. We may finally feel ready to commit to getting up 15 minutes earlier and journaling or having a coffee with our spouses before the kids get up. We may finally be able to pat ourselves on the back and appreciate all we do as military spouses—possibly the hardest task for many of us! As you embark on creating new seasonal goals, setting intentions for the months to come, and planning for a fabulous new year, remember to offer yourself some TLC. Just as important as it is to find out what drives you, it’s important to determine your why. Follow Your Why Rather than writing down what you want […]

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Embrace a Simple System in 2018 from the Military Spouse Coach

Embrace a Simple System for 2018

I love this time of year and the rejuvenating energy that’s in the air. I often have my military spouse clients create vision boards in January and set some new intentions, thinking about all the things they want to attract into their lives over the next year. I especially enjoy completing the life wheel as a free tool for considering what I would like to accomplish in each area for the year to come. The difference between this year and years past is that I am NOT going to bully myself into taking action steps in each area. I am going to focus on 1% change instead—baby steps toward success. Small 1% changes in each area of our lives can feel much more doable, and I think this is even more important for busy military spouses. The Baby Steps Approach to Success – Perfect for Military Spouses! Between deployments, relocations, and maintaining the home front, […]

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Military Spouses: Plan Your 2018 Goals With Grace

I feel blessed to have been able to spend the holidays with my family—every day, I prayed for all of the military families who were apart this time of year. I know military life is hard. Sometimes, when I’m writing about life and career coaching topics, I feel like I underemphasize what a HUGE accomplishment being a military spouse is. So, take a moment to remind yourself how awesome you are for continuing to support your spouse, family, and country. I feel that a big part of being successful in the new year comes from these moments of appreciating what’s going well in our lives already. So, being a military spouse should be at the top of your list of “what went well in 2017”! You’re already so successful—we’re merely working to build on that foundation of excellence in the year to come. Reflect on Your Blessings as a Military Spouse When I meet with […]

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Plan Your Year in a Day

Mark your calendars now for my free January “Plan Your Year in a Day” goal setting webinar. In this workshop, we’ll talk about how to fill out a coaching wheel and use it each week as you schedule steps to success in the areas of health, wealth, and relationships. I really hope you join me for this call or reach out to me to get the recording if you can’t make it. Please share this event with other military spouses you know so that I can add them to my invite list to take advantage of this and other helpful tools. Monday, January 29, 2018 12:00 pm EST Share the post “Plan Your Year in a Day” Facebook Twitter Google+ Pinterest LinkedIn E-mail

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Be A Trailblazer in 2018!

My 2018 Word is “Be A Trailblazer”

Happy New Year! For those of you that have followed my blog, you know that I can’t help talking about goal setting and the New Year brings goal setting to the forefront BUT this year I am about sitting back and smelling to roses and not pushing ourselves too hard. The holidays were fun, but also a bit exhausting, so I am all about self-care this January. While I love waking up and journaling 2018 goals, this year I am more about praising where we are at while we move forward and thinking of a favorite word helps me. I know lots of people that come up with motivating words too and I love sharing and steeling each others words too. One of the ways that help me to think up my “word of the year” is to think about how I want to feel in 2018 and then think of words. My 2018 word […]

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Finding Our Many Selves

Finding Our Many Selves

One of the biggest things I work on with military spouses is defining who they are. We have so many titles: military wife, mom, friend, daughter, but how much time do we spend thinking about who we are beyond those labels? It’s so important for us to dive into who we really are and how happy we actually are with our overall lifestyles. Once we start exploring who we are, we start living more purposefully and moving naturally toward the lives we desire. Our Many Identities When it comes to our identities, there are many categories, including: Our social selves Our personal selves Our professional selves Our religious selves One of the easiest ways I’ve found to figure out who I am in each of these categories, and as a whole person, comes with creating a little daily solitude. Practicing Self-Reflection I blogged about this approach to self-reflection in a recent MilitaryNews.com piece titled “Not […]

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Reflect on Your Year

Reflect On Your Year

December is a great time to reflect on your year so far. However, this is definitely NOT the time to beat yourself up! Instead, it’s a month for reflecting on all that you have accomplished. Oftentimes, my clients’ biggest accomplishments in health, wealth, and marriage aren’t running across the finish line of a 5K, having 5K in their savings, or staying married another 5 years—instead, they’re subtle little shifts in their thinking for the better. They involve embracing healthy habits and discovering ways to enjoy military life more. Celebrate Your Successes I dedicate October to celebrating success, but you can continue to make celebrating your accomplishments a priority throughout this holiday season as well. Ask yourself, “What successes have I had so far?” Your answers may include: Joining a new class at the gym this year or even signing up for a gym at all (even if you didn’t go as often as you’d like, […]

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Making A List, Checking It Twice

Making a List, Checking It Twice

I love lists! I make meal planning lists, to do lists for home and work, gratitude lists, and I even have a Christmas gift book where I list the presents I buy for each of my four kids to check off once they’re wrapped. Lists help me stayed organized during this busy season while keeping everything even (something especially important when you have children)! Make a “Me” List All these lists also remind me that we need to make a list of things we can do for ourselves versus just doing, doing, doing all month for everyone else. After all, we’re also members of our families who need and deserve both attention and love. I’m not talking about spending money on jewelry after overspending on gifts for my kids. What I mean is writing down some ways to give myself special permission to do things that uplift me, and then doing them when I legitimately […]

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Post Your Winter Goals & Happy Mantra to Boot!

Post Your Winter Goals and Happy Mantra to Boot!

In my last blog post I talked about the challenges of going from a hectic day-to-day existence to a life spent slowing down and living intentionally. Today I want to share another productivity habit that I use to make progress toward my seasonal goals: putting them up on a white board and looking at them each day. My clients and I love goal setting, but we’ve admitted that yearly goals often aren’t enough to hold our interest. So, instead, we make seasonal goals that feel relevant to our current surroundings and moods. We pick one health, wealth, and relationship goal each season before posting these goals up on a white board. The Power of Seeing Your Goals I like to put my white board by my desk so that, when I am writing out my to do list, I can take note if anything I’m doing is connected to my goal—if not, I try to […]

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