One of the biggest things I work on with military spouses is defining who they are. We have so many titles: military wife, mom, friend, daughter, but how much time do we spend thinking about who we are beyond those labels?
It’s so important for us to dive into who we really are and how happy we actually are with our overall lifestyles. Once we start exploring who we are, we start living more purposefully and moving naturally toward the lives we desire.
Our Many Identities
When it comes to our identities, there are many categories, including:
- Our social selves
- Our personal selves
- Our professional selves
- Our religious selves
One of the easiest ways I’ve found to figure out who I am in each of these categories, and as a whole person, comes with creating a little daily solitude.
I blogged about this approach to self-reflection in a recent MilitaryNews.com piece titled “Not a Creature Was Stirring.” This article basically talks about the need to regroup daily. By taking some time to just meditate or pray, you’re able to approach life from the driver’s seat.
This reflection can look different for each of us as well. We can read books, listen to podcasts (I recommend the Military Spouse Show), or just take the quiet time needed to decide what kind of lifestyles we want and how to better access our full potential.
Defining What We Want
Once we define what we want in all areas of our life (use my free Life Coaching Wheel for some help), it becomes not so much about getting a perfect 10 in each area as enjoying every step of the way as we strive to get there. Creating simple and easy goals, while learning how to take baby steps to get there, can be hard but incredibly meaningful.
So, if you could use some help, think about signing up for my free coaching teleclass “Plan Your Year in an Hour” in January and let 2018 be your best year ever.
Leave me a comment below if you’ve ever done yearly planning before. Let us know what worked and what didn’t. I want to create a coaching call that draws upon all of your responses.
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