Category: Military Spouse Tips

Military spouses have to juggle everything, and today’s national crises have added even more stress to the undercurrent of stress spouses already face. Have you ever been really excited about starting a healthy diet, a new business idea, or applying to a school and improving your life and then lose that initial motivation for whatever reason? Perhaps something big happened to derail you and you are grieving, or you received some kind of rejection, or you realized that your goal was harder than you initially thought so you lost your motivation entirely. This experience is totally normal and even expected. Rather than analyzing why you lost your motivation, let’s talk about how to get back your motivation. In grad school, I remember learning fancy formulas regarding work motivation. Motivation was a result of combining self-efficacy (our expectancy) for completing the task and the value of the outcome associated with it. The higher these two factors, […]

One of my closest friends and fictional writing partner is very sarcastic. She makes references to “well, before the world was ending…” and I realize that she’s used humor well to deal with what is going on in the world. All kidding aside, I have so many clients asking me, “Krista, how do I focus when I’m working from home?” and “It’s hard to watch the news.” Most of my sessions (now all over the phone or via zoom) start with, “I’m trying my best to adjust to the ‘new normal’ so I thought I would blog about how to focus in the midst of the chaos in the world. Many military spouses feel as if they have “been there, done that” and now the rest of the world is experiencing the undercurrent of stress that they have always felt. Read through my six reminders on how to stay calm while moving forward as you […]

I recently did a podcast on this topic but wanted to outline it here as well. I hope you will find these tips helpful if you are thinking about plunging into a new career. I also wanted to give a little shout out to isnlabs.com for sponsoring that podcast. This company makes nutrition products that my hubby loves; if you are looking for a post-performance work out drink, type RICKWELLS in when you check out and you will get a discount. I love the cranberry lime flavor. Okay, okay, now let’s get on with those tips.

When I think of the phrase “life coach,” I think of my high school field hockey coach, Ms. Baldwin. Ms. Baldwin was full of energy and spunk; she had a bouncing blonde ponytail and wore those leather high-top Reeboks in different colors, her shoes always matching her leggings. I can picture her running up and down the grassy field while holding her whistle and shouting “go get ‘em!” from the sidelines. Ms. Baldwin embraced all the characteristics of a true “coach.” What do we do when high school is over and we still need help getting focused and winning at our own game of life? Ms. Baldwin would literally jump two feet in the air when we scored. Do you ever feel like you need a Ms. Baldwin to notice when you are winning at life? I do. In 2003, I began cheering on other military spouses who wanted to find their passion and grow […]

I believe military spouses can be super successful if they just get rid of what doesn’t serve them and believe in themselves. Sometimes there is so much on our plate as a military spouse that we can’t imagine how to fit in success. We want better health, more wealth, and cleaner closets but we don’t have the time or energy to make even 1% changes, or so it seems. I am here to promise you that if you decide to be successful, pockets of time will start showing up, but it requires some faith! The best predictor of future performance is past performance. So, by focusing on your past accomplishments, you really set the stage to attract more achievement toward you. Including this important aspect in your mission statement thus allows you to more easily make progress toward reaching both your seasonal and long-term goals regarding health, wealth, and relationships. Plus, this progress will be […]

I had a clutter clearing coaching session with a military spouse and she and I discussed the steps it takes to clear clutter before PCSing. We talked about the power of purging, paying attention to where life is overstuffed versus where it is sparse, creating systems that serve our highest self, finding simple and portable storage solutions (ex. labeling our cords) and we had a lot of fun imagining how freeing it might be to finally chuck those unlabeled cords once and for all. We both laughed at our funny habit of sitting in a room that we have just cleaned and taking it all in. I even remember when my kids were younger and I would clean their playroom and then say, “Can you not play right now, I just cleaned it all up!” As silly as it was, it felt like I needed to take in the energy boost before things went back […]

I just wanted to take a break from my typical military spouse blog posts and just thank you for your service this month and make sure we are connected off this blog. I am not sending out a traditional newsletter anymore but want to make sure you sign up for my email list where I only share coaching tips, and find ways different military spouses can get connected. If you are reading this blog, please take a minute and sign up for my monthly coaching tips right now, and considering joining my monthly free coaching webinars too. While I like being connected on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram, my email list is where I keep in touch with former military clients and create relationships with potential clients that want some free life coaching before they consider if they need their own coach. I love to let my email subscribers in on special coaching offers, give them […]