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A Great Reminder To Find Our Flow

I met Stephanie at an online International Coaching Federation (ICF) event put on by Dr. Martha Eddy. Yes, even during Covid, I was able to network and connect with a like-minded coach. I knew we must have something in common to both be interested in Dr. Eddy’s mind-body work, but then I discovered that she was also from West Hartford—my home town—and just transitioning into being a full time coach. We both believe that our clients are all artists at heart. Now that I have been coaching seventeen years, I love encouraging other coaches to find their way. Stephanie’s niche was particularly interesting to me because she also believes in the power of getting her clients to embrace the body, mind, and spirit to live unapologetically to their fullest. I loved her word “unapologetically” because this is something I work on with military spouses who are trying to do it all. So, I asked Stephanie […]

6 “Shoulds” We Should Let Go Of During The Quarantine

Lots of us are struggling right now. We are re-prioritizing our lives, realizing that our health is number one, and many of us are looking around at the pace in which we were living and doing our best to embrace a simpler versions of our lives. Through taking walks, baking, and coloring with the kids, many of us are realizing that there is a silver lining as we are forced to hit the “life reset” button. However, many women who I speak with are still pushing themselves internally, even as the external pressures let up. These women tell me they are struggling to manage their own stress as they are charged with taking care of others. I get it. I’m trying to oversee my four kids’ online schooling, maneuver life with the hubby at home (my husband’s a teacher) and manage my online business. While I’m grateful to be able to work over phone, it […]

6 Tips for Making Military Marriages Work

Military life is often filled to the brim with stressors, and a military marriage is no easier. This includes anxiety associated with finances, moving, deployment, and even reintegration. And, to put it lightly, none of these factors make a marriage any simpler! However, some military couples combat these life stressors with surefire strategies that allow them to not only survive, but actually thrive in their relationships. From their stories, I’ve created a list of the things that happy couples have told me are key ingredients in their fulfilling partnerships and I’d love to hear from you guys too. As with any goal, we need to define what we want in our marriage. Only then can we focus on the things that are going well. What we focus on grows, so if we can stop focusing on being competitive and instead try to create more intimacy, laughter, and compromise, we’ll begin moving in the right direction. […]

Think About Your Summer Plan of Action

Once you create an overall vision of how you want your summer to look and feel, you need to “work the plan” or the days will all begin to run together and next thing you know, you’ll look up and it will be September already. I mean, how often have you heard the question, “Where did the summer go?” Avoid this feeling by planning out each week the same way you do during the productive parts of the year. Even if you’re scheduling downtime, it’s good to sit down and map out a plan before military life starts to feel too chaotic. At the beginning of each new week, I sit down on Sunday nights, look at the days ahead, and think about what I will do for exercise, for work, and for family time. While these activities are tweaked during the summer compared to how they look during the school year, I need to […]

Create A Summer Routine

Summer may be the time for vacations and fun, but it can also be an incredibly stressful season for moms in general, and military spouses specifically. Having the kids at home all day can create a feeling of chaos and disorder that quickly becomes overwhelming. I’ve found that the best way to avoid overwhelm is to create a summer routine that brings some order into our lives, without making it overly structured. Set The Tone For Each Day Setting the tone for the day is an excellent way to start things off right, and it can also help your summer routine go smoother. One way to approach it is to think of the images that you have on your vision board and try to manifest them by acting the part. My clients may post photos on their vision boards of super fit, super happy working moms or of couples walking hand in hand and kids […]

Create A Summer Vision!

There’s never a bad time to make a vision board. While I do my vision board in January, many of my clients find the time to get theirs done in the summer. And I often do a summer vision board with my kids because it’s a great opportunity for kids to think about their goals for the following school year. I’ll invite my girlfriend over and we’ll buy magazines and stickers and let the kids’ creative juices flow! If you aren’t up for making a full vision board with the kids, you can still get some summer goals in writing. We take some time towards the end of June to jot down what we want to get done over the summer. This includes our “summer bucket list” of fun things we want to be sure to fit in before school starts back up. This looks like a kitchen bulletin board adorned with camp schedules, amusement […]

Happy Mother’s Day To The Military Spouse Community!

I am so excited that my baby sister just became a mother! She named her so after my father that passed away, so when she shared his name I chocked up. I am so proud of her and excited for her to become a mom. I am also happy for all my clients that balance motherhood with military life and work like; you all do so much and deserve a pat on the back. Just being a Military Spouse is something that you should really be proud of because your love and support are what makes our country so strong and just surrender to how amazing you are and motherhood is just another amazing thing that many of you spouses do, so if you are a mom, I am sending extra hugs out to my mommy clients and hope that you enjoy the special day.

Military Spouse Appreciation Day

I am excited to be a part of Military Spouse Magazine’s Military Spouse of The Year Awards. I read the spouses stories and I am just so inspired by the strength that so many military spouses exhibit. Being part of the event is an honor and I am excited to share step by step coaching on how to create “go for it” statements. This is a theme that I will be addressing this month, along with a Webinar on decluttering because as we define who we are, we need to get rid of things that no longer serve us and this often includes physical things. I will talk more about this in my upcoming Webinar at the end of may and hope that many of you will be able to attend. Add photo from event here (I am away may 8th, post may 11th which is military spouse appreciation day. Go for it statements rock […]